In aiming to generate goodness, I notice grief arises to influence domination of others. Thus grief tests domination and also excludes the influence of some.
In noticing reactionary states of domination, including any irrational need for grief (or to cause grief), I examine fame and devotion.
In facing unfelt rejection, I participate through self-aware grief, that is, awareness of tensions over giving vs. receiving and enhanced capacity for giving through both union and creativity.